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I have been to see my gp as I was feeling ill, but couldnt explain it properly. I was getting episodes of vomitting, feeling edgy, couldnt concentrate, couldnt sleep etc, things just felt "odd" I had no idea what was going on, but as it was affecting every day things, and my family I thought I should get it checked out. After doing a check to be sure I hadnt had a stroke, she asked me questions, and when I answered yes to all five, she told be it was anxiety. As I mentioned before, both my daughters are moving out soon, my eldest at end of June, and then Georgia goes to uni in September. I have also felt very upset about the little girl I looked after for two years as she has now gone to day nursery, and I only had three days warning. I dont see so much of friends anymore, since I stopped working at the school, and childminding can be a lonley occupation!! I suppose there are more things, and all this has proved a bit too much She will book me in to see a therapist, but will probably be a few weeks wait. Has anyone felt like this?? Its a scary feeling, and difficult to control.  BARBARA
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Hi Barbara I am so sorry to hear things are not good for you emotionally right now and fully understand your feelings about your girls moving out and starting the next stage of their lives. It is a loss in some respects but it is a widening of opportunities; Georgia will have a whole new experience which she will want to share with you, new friends, new subjects and you will of course be required to visit her regularly! I found it so hard when my only daughter went off to university in Wales. Despite having three sons still at home all the 'girlie' things I did with Abby kind of went to be replaced with daily phone calls about washing liquid, changing vacuum bags, paying bills etc. But, when she returned home, (regularly, even though it was 130 miles each way!), those times became extra special and enjoyed so much more. Now, come September, my twin boys will be off to university and suddenly I am starting to worry that the house is going to seem so very quiet with just one child left! To be honest Barbara, and I really shouldn't say this seeing as it all costs so ruddy much, they are hardly ever at uni! So, don't be thinking it's you and your other half just yet. They start mid September and most seem to come home for a visit in the first month. By the end of October they have a reading/study week and they're home again. First week of December they finish for a month or more for Christmas! By the time it gets to January they only have 4 months to go, including Easter and exams ... then you get her home again for three months. It's all very temporary this uni life! It's sad that 'your' little girl went off to nursery at such short notice and I can empathise with how upset you must feel. Perhaps though it was best that it happened quickly so that neither of you had too long to think about it. Sounds harsh I know and perhaps a little more notice would have given you longer to accept the situation more readly and with less upset. It's good that you are going to see someone who will be able to talk all these things through with you. They are not in any way judgemental and chatting about your concerns may help you find a way to move forward to a better place. Sometimes things do seem to go wrong all at once and we overload ... it is scary but it can be worked out. Thinking of you Barbara, Lyn xx
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Hi Barbara,
Yes I have experienced this, and as you say, it is scarey. I experienced this when a lot of changes occurred at once, and this can be seen as loss. For me my father inlaw died, my father was diagnosed with cancer, my only child left our town to live with her then partner and I changed my job after 25 years as, well as going into the menopause. At times it was very frightening, and I was at times unable to make a decision about simple things. However I was also depressed as well. The good news is, that it is treatable, and I received CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), which I found very helpful, and although it has been about two years since I have experienced the anxiety, do still use loosely the CBT process at times. It's very difficult to explain it to others and as you say difficult to control, but does pass. My daughter also experienced it after the birth of her second and third child, and she is fully recovered now. I remember going into sainsbury's, picking up bunch after bunch of bannana's, not being able to choose through feeling anxious, so I put them down and had to leave the shop. Please don't feel alone with this, keep posting.
Candy
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hi Barbara,
just wanted to say anxiety is an awful thing to go through ... i don't think anyone really understands it unless they've been through it a bit like RA really.
hope the therapist help,
anxiety is a lonely place in itself,
take care,
Suzanne x
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 I understand exactly what you are going through Barbara, sometimes so much happens at once it is completely overwhelming. Hope you get to see the tharapist soon, it should help you a lot. Keep posting on here and we will try to support you through this awful time. Love, Doreen xx
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Hi Barbara i understand completely what you are going through. I have been through very similar myself in the last coule of years. I saw my gp, who is lovely, and i had to fill in an anxiety and depression score sheet and she told me i had very high anxiety levels, very common in people with a chronic illness. That combined with menopause symptoms, a chronically ill son and my father in law ill at the time made my anxiety hard to cope with. So bad i stopped coming on here as i felt i didn't have the head space for it.
I have now had counselling and hypnotherapy which although very hard work and at one point i did wonder if it was making me worse, has really helped. I do feel on the whole alot better, although i know if i do too much i have a bad week again physically and mentally. The gp also gave me a good leaflet from the psychology dept at my local hospital which is very good and puts everything into perspective.
Hope you get the help you need soon Barbara, i had to wait eight months for counselling on the nhs at my gp's.
I have recently found a meditation cd which i bought from amazon very helpful if i am having a bad week.
All best wishes.
Bevxx
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Hi Barbara
I agree with Suzanne and Doreen. Been through something similar myself in the past few weeks. I haven't had an episode like this before but I feel ok now. i hope your therapist sorts you out and you are soon feeling better.
Sheila x
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Barbara I am sorry you have having such a bad time at the moment. Although I do not suffer from anxiety myself my Husband, of 20 years, can tell you how horrible anxiety can be. He has suffered all his life and over the last five years has been really through the mill with this awful illness. Unfortunately mental health is still not recognised as a top priority illness but I am glad that you have a good GP who has put you forward for counselling. Talking definitely helps. My Husband has had several different sessions and starts his again on Tuesday. He comes out so positive and he says that unless you have suffered from this yourself you can never understand. His "bible" is a book by Dr. Clare Weeks. He constantly refers to the books that she has written and he would highly recommend them. He says that she has made sense of what he is suffering and explains all the symptoms you are feeling. You can buy this on Amazon http://www.amazon.co.uk/...d=1306692768&sr=8-8 (sorry don't know how to do it as an actual link, but you can copy and paste into your browser). I hope your counselling comes through quickly for you. Take care. Jackie xx
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Thank you all so much, it means alot to know others understand, and can empathise. I do rely on you all so much. Lyn, I know you are right, they go away to uni, but spend more time at home!! I just hope it goes quickly when she is away!! thank you for your support Lyn, you are always there for us. Thank you for caring x Candy, I am sorry you experienced anxiety too, its so scary, and at the time you think it wont ever stop. I am glad the CBT helped you, I will be glad when my appt comes through Suzanne, thank you for replying, it is awful, and makes you feel so scared. Doreen, it is overwhelming, thank you for caring. I will definitely keep posting, where would I be with out you? Bev, I am sorry you have had similar experiences, and needed counselling. Thank you for your support Sheila, It seems that there are more people suffering than I could have ever imagined, and who are willing to talk about it and give their support, I am very grateful Jackie, I do remember from before that your husband had these kind of problems, it must be so hard for all of you to cope with this long term. I willlook in Amazon for Dr Clare Weeks books, thank you so much for replying Jackie x BARBARA
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hi Barbara,
thinking of you and hoping you're feeling a bit better. Anxiety is horrible but in my experience acute episodes do pass.
take care
Diane x
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Hi Barbara
Just read this one.
Much of it could be me too. Hopefully as others say it will pass.
Sending you hugs
Look after yourself
Maria
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Thank you Diane and Maria, things have not been so bad this week. Still not heard from counsellor, but no point in worrying about that too!!! Thank you for your kind comments and help and advice, its much appreciated  BARBARA
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